It was never your fault.

My mentor and I were chatting today about the law of attraction, and the widespread idea that you need to take responsibility for vibrationally magnetizing the experiences in your life.
Unfortunately this is a very widespread notion in the new age spiritual world, and can cause large amount of emotional/psychological damage. It can make you feel terrible about yourself whenever your life isn’t all rainbows and unicorns, because your immediate thought becomes “what am I doing wrong to be attracting this?? Must. fix. my. vibration!!”
My dear, relax. The reality is a LOT more complex that that.
The truth is that it was never your fault. If you have been wrongfully treated, abused, etc, it was not your fault. You did not cause those experiences to happen. You did not deserve them because you were not meditating enough, or because you do not own enough moonlight charged crystals. While I am all about taking ownership and responsibility over what we CAN change in our lives, and while we can fiddle with the subconscious beliefs, energetic signatures, etc that are influencing you in a way that has a major impact on your quality of life, we also live in a reality and in a system where some things are simply out of our control. Covid is a perfect example of that. We can choose not to wear masks or get vaccinated, but the result is that certain environments, people and activities will then be off limits to us. We can find this angering and unfair, but it is the reality that we live in right now.
So let yourself off the hook. Keep a safe distance between you and anyone who tells you that you caused horrible events to happen. Take ownership of your life and remember that you are an extremely powerful being, while finding the relief in not needing to take responsibility for everything.